Dealing With That Pesky Black Cloud
I have recently made some new friends on Facebook, and there is one person that I have seemed to talk to more often than others. We interact, comment on each others' posts, and support each others' businesses. Well, this new friend posted a FB live about how you need to swing the bat. At first, I wasn't really sure what that meant. What bat? What does this even mean? She began to go on talking about how in life, we have to take a swing at things. If we never swing, then we never have the chance to hit the ball. We never have the chance to make it to first base, or hit that home run.
This analogy got me thinking about the different steps we have to take, and go through, to eventually be able to hit that home run. Here are the 5 steps that I think we all need to go through to get the courage and confidence to be able to succeed and take those steps to get that home run.
You're scared. You are doing something you have never done before. You're excited because you know you want to do this, and do it well, but you want to be good at it right away. You learn how to hold a bat the proper way, how your hands need to be placed and how far up or down the bat. But the most important step? Being able to step up to the plate. We know we are new at this, and we may not do well. But we have to have the courage to step up to the plate.
Life is the same way. Starting something new is hard, and it is scary. But you're doing exactly that, you're starting. You have to accept that that's a big step in the right direction. Do you have a goal or a dream that you have been wanting for a long time but haven't done anything about it? Yeah, me too. It can be terrifying, because if you try then you have the chance to fail. However, I 've learned that we can't let the fear of failure keep us from working towards our dreams. Babe Ruth said it best, "Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game."
3. Your Next Swings
These are where you really grow and learn. You have that first swing (and miss) under your belt, and now we can move forward from that. Here is where you are tested the most, you figure out how you have to adjust your swing to hit that damn ball. You're challenged, you have to overcome a lot of doubt in yourself. But somehow, you hit the ball. Maybe it isn't a home run, but you make contact with the ball. And then you make it to first base; you start to gain your confidence back. Little by little, you start to believe in yourself, and believe that you can do it.
Once you make it to first base, you start to think about what you did right. You start to figure out what works for you and what doesn't. From here, we just have to run. As fast as we can to make it to second base. Yes, whoever is at the plate has to hit the ball, but you have to focus on you, and how you can make that move. But, you hit some bumps in the road. You know what though? That's okay. Now you know what you have to do the next time you step up to the plate. And now you're ready to hit that home run.
4. Home Run
You're up once again, you're up to the plate. All you want to do is hit a home run. You watch the pitcher, you know what he is about to throw, and you watch that ball come all the way to the bat. You watch the ball make contact with the bat and you swing with all of your might. The ball starts to soar, and you have that split feeling of happiness and being scared. You're happy because you know it's a possibility that you can hit that home run, and you're scared because what if it doesn't make it over the wall? But you start to run, in hopes that you will hit that ball over the wall.
You watch the ball as you run, and you see it hit over the wall. You are ecstatic! You slow down your run to enjoy your time running around the bases. You get all the way to home plate and you just jump on it. You are so happy that you just can't contain yourself and you jump on that home plate to let it know that you freaking did it. You accomplished your goal. You were able to make the special feeling possible. You are over the moon, and you realize that you are the one who made that happen.
5. The Aftermath
I considered not including this step, but I believe that this is a very important part. The initial excitement has warn off and you start to settle in. You settle into the fact that you are able to do what you put your mind to. Your confidence continues to grow, and you recognize that putting in the work can lead to great things. You see how far you have come. With all of the practice, failures, and successes, you have grown. Without all of that, you may not have been able to hit that home run.
Life works the same way. We fail, and we try something different. And we keep trying until we figure out what works for us. If you are putting in the effort, you will eventually see a reward. Sometimes it may not seem like what you're doing is going to get you where you want to go, but you have to believe in yourself. Once you see success for the first time, you start to get a taste of it; you want it even more after you've had it because you know what it tastes like.
If you have a dream, don't let fear stop you. Just because there may be challenges on the way, does not mean that the dream won't be worth it. The challenges are what make the success of achieving your dream so sweet. So, dream as big as you can; dream all of your dreams, and don't let anything get in your way. Especially yourself. Swing that damn bat.
There is a lot to be learned from Walt Disney. Walt was rejected and fired from his company at age 23 because he was not "creative" enough. And what did he do? He kept moving forward. He continued to create. He continued to believe in his work. Walt Disney became on of the most successful entrepreneurs in history. Walt created those fairytales we watched as children, Walt allowed us as children to have dreams and goals. I know when I thought about what my life would be like as a grown up, I imagined it being like Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella.
If there is one thing that Walt and I have in common, it is that we both believe in moving f o r w a r d. The movie Meet The Robinsons came out in 2007, and as a 7th grader, there was one thing that truly stuck out to me from this movie. At the end, a quote from Walt Disney appears, "Around here, however, we don't look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening new doors and doing new things, because we're curious... and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths."
Let me be brutally honest here, I have never been much into fashion. Yes I like to look nice sometimes, but if you were to look in my closet right now, you would see a whole bunch of t-shirts and sweatpants. I like to be comfortable. As soon as I get home, I change into sweatpants and a big shirt. If you're telling me you don't do that, you're lying. There was a certain event that happened in my life in middle school that turned me to sweats. That story is for another time; but after that event, I wore sweats for probably a week. And the rest is history.
Day 8 of my bible study of The Good Stuff by Havilah Cunnington; and Havilah did it again. Hitting me right in my feels. How does she do it every day?
Maybe that's because God is working within me, and I am looking towards Him to continue that work. But sometimes, we aren't always "good receivers" of His message. Sometimes, we sit there in disbelief that God could put us through such crap, and allow so much anger within us.
Right now, God is asking me to do something that I truly just do not understand.
I'm hoping that you sang that in your head just like it sounds in the Gilmore Girls theme. I sure do every time I read it! But this is not about Gilmore Girls, although there are many things I could talk about that relates to Gilmore Girls and my life. We'll save that one for another day.
Today I began a new Bible study. Havilah Cunnington has been the sole author of the two Bible studies I have done, and all I can say is she sure knows how to get you hooked right from the beginning! The first Bible study was called, I Do Hard Things, and it was a four week study that guided you through how to work through the hard things in your life, and how you are strong enough to overcome them. What an amazing first Bible study to do. I worked on this study alongside a group of amazing women, and each Sunday night we discussed the week together and talked about what we learned and how the study impacted us that week.
Hi there! I'm Kelli and this blog is about my life with anxiety, and how I am learning to cope. Looking to God is the only way that I stay sane (well with some help from my family, pets, and boyfriend). My goal is to attempt to be a silver lining for all, myself included.